Another testament to Stanford’s commitment to employee development was Helena’s encouragement for us to explore open positions that interested us. She urged us to identify any requirements we felt we lacked and offered her support in helping us attain those skills. It was the first time I felt comfortable discussing my career aspirations with my supervisor, even if it meant considering opportunities outside of Stanford.
Unfortunately, the following three years brought some of the most challenging personal experiences of my life. My father passed away suddenly in December 2022, marking the first time I had lost someone so close to me. The grief was overwhelming, but the compassion and understanding from my colleagues made a significant difference. I felt completely supported during this incredibly difficult time, given the space I needed to process my loss. My brother, who works in a hospital, faced similar challenges, and I noticed that his organization did not always extend the same kindness.
Most recently, in June 2025, my mother passed away from glioblastoma, a type of brain tumor. This experience was difficult in a different way. She was given 2-3 months to live without treatment and 6 months with it. Ultimately, she lived for another four months, during which we provided hospice care in her home in New York City, as she wished. I am forever grateful for the family leave time that allowed me to honor my mother’s wishes. This period was a true testament to the patience, compassion, and kindness exhibited by my executives, supervisors, and coworkers. Stanford’s supportive policies made an incredibly challenging situation more bearable.
I know that grief is not a popular topic and can make some people uncomfortable, but it is a universal experience that we will all encounter in one way or another. I want to dedicate this article to my wonderful parents and express my heartfelt gratitude to all my colleagues for their unwavering support during the most challenging times I have faced thus far.
